Thursday, March 25, 2010


Well, i really don’t know if i have to believe in the saying- "All is fair in love and war". Come on, how can disrespect be fair at all i must say! For me LOVE is a dish which has respect, faith, trust, friendship as its main ingredients. Anything bereft of these is definitely not love!

What made me write this blog was a call from one of my friend, name definitely not to be disclosed...who had to tell me of her husband who loves her like a Romeo when he happens to be in good moods and who turns into a tamer with a whip when he gets really angry! I heard he literally goes to the extent of kicking and slapping her at times! (Such a behavior is an affront to society is it not??).Definitely my friend is more definitely pissed off and is in a funk on such latter days!

But there is no question of separation or anything like that btw the belligerent couple cos my friend says "oh Achu he really loves me like anything, i can swear it on my mom, and u sld trust me wen i say this" which really meant his bark is worse than his bite to me though!!

So my real next question is it really worth being tamed while being loved!!

How can u ever disrespect someone whom u really happens to love! Does -"familiarity breeds contempt" come in the way i do not know! But ya, definitely contempt should not mean kicking and slapping though!

What i would wanna say is when u love, how can you ever badger the loved one with any such nonsense! Is it worth being tamed like that just because you are getting love in return?

Every individual loves to be loved! I also don’t believe in the concept of falling in love at all, cos all of us have to rise in love and not fall in love! I do not think there is any saturation level to this love because i believe love is an infinite and immortal feeling that only, we, the supreme human beings are blessed with, more so with a mouth to express it thoroughly to our loved ones whole heartedly!

Well this is all i wanted to share with all of you!

Finally according to me disrespect can’t fall between the cracks in the relationship of love or for that matter in any relationship i must say!

It is still an enigma for me - "All is fair in love and war" ???????


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  3. Wife beating is unacceptable and that's final. Most victims of domestic violence give the same old line "MY HUSBAND LOVES ME". The women are digging a deep hole for themselves by telling themselves that their spouses can get away with anything just because of the "LOVE" factor. How far can you take the argument? Is it acceptable if the husband kills his wife, OF COURSE out of LOVE? It is only a matter of time, that things will break down.
    Dr Phil says the following on domestic violence: "They stay because the fear of leaving is greater than the fear of staying. They will leave when the fear of staying is greater than the fear of leaving."

  4. Completely agree, but Archana what about cases like me n Abhi, where domestic violence is inflicted on the 'not so fairer sex'??

  5. I saw your Blog. I am happy that you have started writing Blog. It is good to express. I wish you all the luck.
    According to you there cannot be any disrespect in case there is love. I would put it a little differently. It is not enough if there is no disrespect. There should be total respect.
    You have spoken of relationship between husband and wife. I think both should respect each other totally, fully and completely.
    However love can be seen from another point of view. Love means you wish the best to the other.
    To understand what ideal love is, one must read the story “I bought my husband” by Ayn Rand.
    I wish you the best.

  6. Good one achu...! Love is not just about respecting each other.. to me it is also an emotion which needs expression.. It finds its purpose only when it is Expressed.. No matter how much you love a person it becomes just another futile emotion if it is not demonstrated in words, actions and thoughts.. and to understand the power of love and its expression you must read The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch.
    Women in India need to learn to be emotionally strong and independent.. I see no point in people getting bogged down in a morass of humiliation and harassment and at the end of it all saying "He actually loves me!"

  7. hey nice one achu.... good to see u blogging now... m proud of u my friend :) :)

  8. @basi- yeah...
    @arun- lol!!!
    @sush- thanks darlin...
    @bindi- love ya bindi thanks....